WISE WHISPER

LIFE IS IN STAGES ; BLESSINGS ARE IN TIMINGS; OPPORTUNITIES ARE TIED WITH DEADLINES BUT DREAMS ARE BOUNDLESS!





Friday 6 August 2010

INPUT DETERMINES OUTPUT!





LET'S GO FISHING!

Reading about the FISH! PHILOSOPHY  has been an eye opener. This Philosophy derived from observing employees of the famous  Pike Place Fish Market in Seattle, is endowed with vital practical lessons which I wish to relay to you in simple terms.

Life is short as the old saying goes, so I personally believe it has to be enjoyed. We must make the most of every situation and try to make ourselves happy whether at work or not. The employees of Seattle's Pike Place Fish Market demonstrated this was possible, and showed that a good input would in the long run produce a good output. We are sometimes bombarded with demanding situations, but should we take things easy and  let down our hair, life can be so simple and complicated situations can be simplified, with once stressful incidents losing all traces of stress.

LESSON 1
  • PLAY
All work and no play surely will make us dull, stressed, frustrated and unhappy. Life is meant to be lived happily. We determine what to make of what life brings to us. When the employees of the Seattle fish market were faced with the seemingly mundane job of selling fish, they could have looked at all the negative sides of it  - how they would smell all fishy; that they would be standing for long, etc, etc. But they chose to see things differently. They decided to add fun to somewhat a tasking job.  They didn't just sell fish but they sold it with a difference and with a twist of fun. As Wikipedia put it - 'They filled orders by flinging fish to each other, inciting laughter from the customers and compliments about their throwing/catching abilities, or commiseration if they missed. Employees would often invite customers to join the fun.'

Whatever you are faced with, be it a difficult subject you are studying, or a needed skill you are struggling to acquire, think of ways of making the task interesting. Compose a song about the situation and sing and dance to it if possible. Laugh at yourself and laugh through your blunders. If it's a difficult person you need to deal with, go easy on yourself by making light of it in your own way. Are you hard up and need to eat something unappealing? Add excitement to a somewhat unpleasant meal by garnishing it to the best of your ability. Once,  struggling with a phobia of heights, I needed to use an overhead that just seemed to highlight this phobia. I decided to overcome it. I wore my sunglasses , modelled across singing a tune. Only God knows how wobbly and scared I was - but the end product was that I made it safe and sound to the other side. The fun I added to it helped me to pull through. My fear was no longer my focus. Once you keep your eyes and attention off the difficult and unpleasant bit, you will be able to focus on attaining successful results, with an added benefit of fun - fun as you wish to define it.  BE LIGHTHEARTED! HAVE FUN AND ENJOY SOME PLAY!!!


LESSON 2.                                               
  • MAKE THEIR DAY    
 You were created to meet a particular need. Once you identify it and pursue it wholeheartedly, your performance will put smiles on faces. We are admonished to diligently do whatever we find ourselves doing . When you focus on making others happy, you will make yourself happy in the process. Forget your own problems for a while and try to solve another person's problem. There is an inner feeling of fulfillment that accompanies one's ability to solve someone's problem or to meet another person's need. Inspire others; be creative; leave good memories for others through your actions. Sow seeds of kindness and you shall reap kind returns. 
 "The flower of kindness will grow. Maybe not now, but it will some day.
And in kind that kindness will flow, for kindness grows in this way."
-- Robert Alan
           

LESSON 3
  • BE THERE !
Sometimes all we need is for someone to be THERE for us! Most humans crave for attention. We must be attentive and sensitive to the needs of others. Make time for others. Listen to them, try to do their bidding to the best of your ability and capability. Try and make people feel good, serve them as though they were royals even if they are peasants. Make the most of the now, tomorrow is not guaranteed for anyone! There may never be another opportunity to make someone feel loved. Add a special uncommon touch to common everyday fare.

LESSON 4
  • CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE 


Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine. 
~Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book


A positive attitude produces positive results, and a negative attitude produces negative results. Attitudes determine actions, and actions determine output. An attitude is an input that produces an output. The output you shall get is reflective of the attitudinal input you put up. It is imperative to choose an attitude  - a positive one for positive results or a negative one for negative results.  We are not always faced with pleasant circumstances but even when unpleasant episodes rock our lives , we must remember this great message:
We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.  ~Author Unknown


  • Traits of a positive attitude are : HAPPY, UNDERSTANDING, SUPPORTIVE, FLEXIBLE, ENCOURAGING, RESPECTFUL, EARNEST, TOLERANT, ADAPTIVE , GOOD LISTENER
  • Traits of a negative attitude are : THOUGHTLESSNESS , CONDESCENDING, SELFISH, RUDE, IMPATIENT, PESSIMISTIC, INTOLERANT , HASTY, PROUD, ARROGANT, MOODY, PARANOID


The good thing about attitude is that everyone has the will power to choose which attitude to adapt. It all begins in the mind and permeates our actions,  affecting the results we produce. At the Pike Place Fish Market for instance, the positive attitude of cheerfulness and attentiveness to customer needs produced great sales results, leaving both customers and employees of the Fish Market satisfied.


Please choose to go fishing - embrace the FISH! PHILOSOPHY today!
    






 












Written by Gina Bello

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Monday 1 March 2010

THE SOUR GRAPES ATTITUDE

As you can see from the narrative picture below, the sour grapes attitude sulks. It is a nasty attitude that must be eschewed and not nurtured.

The idiomatic meaning of sour grapes is to decide that the attainment of something you have desired or unsuccessfully attempted to acquire or attain, is not worth it after all , and even possibly inferior in quality. Sour grapes is an attitude that constantly puts down or expresses a feigned disdain about everything that  is desired but not attained. A person with a sour grapes attitude will deny the desirability of anything she cannot have. If you wear a nice dress which she wishes she could also have but is unable to buy, she will say all sorts of unpleasant things about the dress for you to feel it is actually not a nice one.

The sour grapes attitude likes to pass disparaging remarks about positive strides attained by others. If anything good is not to their credit, it is not good enough. If they lost in a contest, the rewarding prize in their opinion is undesirable. For instance if there is a $1000 prize for the winner of a contest they participated in and lost, they will pass a comment like -' I didn't even want to win. The prize is demeaning - only $1000.'



The sour grapes attitude is full of envy.  A person full of sour grapes cannot rejoice with others. Everything good must be theirs. If they long to marry, and you get married before they do, they will have all sorts of nasty things to say about your marriage - that your husband is not handsome enough; that your wedding ceremony or wedding ring was below standard. And so on and so forth.This reiterates the old Persian saying that: "The cat who cannot reach the meat says it stinks!” 



The term sour grapes is derived from one of Aesop's fables . A fox tries many times to pluck some grapes that dangle invitingly over his head, but he cannot reach them. As he slinks away in disgust, he says, “Those grapes are probably sour anyway.” To the fox in the fable, whatever he cannot have is otherwise not good. This indeed is a bitter attitude. To the individual full of sour grapes, what he has tried to attain but was unsuccessful, must not be attained by any other. He will belittle anything he cannot or does not have.

Do you always appear bitter about the good achievements of others? Are you fond of passing degrading and cynical remarks about what others have, especially when you secretly wish for the same things? If you simply cannot say 'well done' to your fellow, or admit the admirable and laudable achievements of others. If you are unable to handle your loss in a dignified manner but rather scornfully despise another's triumph, you are full of sour grapes and your attitude sulks. So please, kindly get off your high horse and clean up your envious heart.





Written by Gina Bello

 WHAT IS NEXT?



I like this poem so much and believe it will inspire you. Reflect on the words, and learn from them.

If You Think You are Beaten – by Walter D. Wintle

If you think you are beaten, you are.


If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you’d like to win but think you can’t,

It’s almost certain you won’t.


Life’s battles don’t always go

To the stronger or faster man,

But sooner or later, the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can.

WHAT IS NEXT? 


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